Feeling "Not Good Enough" in Love? Here's How to Stop Putting Men on a Pedestal and Reclaim Your Power

If you’ve ever felt like the man you want is “too good” for you, this is for you. Learn how to shift your mindset, heal rejection wounds, and stand confidently in your worth with this empowering guide for women navigating love, relationships, and feminine energy.

Stop Putting Him on a Pedestal: The Feminine Shift That Changes Everything

Have you ever found yourself asking, “Why would someone like him choose someone like me?” Or maybe you’ve hesitated to even try dating again, afraid of being rejected—again.

You’re not alone.

Inside the Relax into Love community, this fear shows up often: fear of rejection, feeling not good enough, and putting the kind of partner you want on an impossible pedestal.

But here’s the truth that changes everything:

👉 You are not “less than.”
👉 Rejection is not failure.
👉 The dream relationship you desire is not out of your league.

In fact, the moment you stop idolizing him and start honoring yourself as worthy, everything begins to shift.

What’s Really Behind the “He’s Too Good for Me” Fear?

It’s never just about him. It’s about a belief system running under the surface of your heart:

• I’m not attractive enough.

• I haven’t done enough healing.

• I’m not successful or polished like he is.

This inner voice—your inner critic—isn’t telling the truth. It’s recycling old programming from childhood, past relationships, or society’s standards of “what makes a woman worthy.”

That’s why I teach my clients to do the “5 Why” Exercise:

Ask yourself:
Why do I feel like he’s too good for me?
Answer it. Then ask why again. And again.
By the fifth “why,” you’ll often hit the root belief that’s asking to be healed.

Feminine Energy and the Power of Humble Confidence

Rejection isn't proof that you're not lovable—it’s just redirection. The energy you bring into dating deeply matters. And true feminine power means this:

• You’re not auditioning for love.

• You’re co-creating connection with an equal.

• You’re choosing to believe: “I am the prize too.”

When I sent off the first chapters of my manuscript to a top literary agent in New York, I felt all the nerves. All the doubts. All the “who do I think I am?”

But I remembered what I teach you.

It’s not about ego. It’s about embodied worth.
And when we lead with that kind of grounded self-trust, we magnetize the people and opportunities that are aligned with us.

For the Woman Ready to Attract a Healthy Relationship

If you’ve been doing the work—healing old wounds, practicing feminine energy, setting standards, and learning to regulate your emotions—you are ready.

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are not asking for too much.

You are simply calibrating to a new frequency where love meets you at your level of self-worth.

And if someone doesn’t meet you there? That’s okay. Rejection is just God’s way of saying, “Not this one. Keep going.”

A Loving Challenge for You

💌 Journal on this: What would shift if I believed I was fully worthy right now—not after I lose the weight, get the perfect job, or feel more ‘ready’?

💫 Reflect on the wins and growth you’ve already had.
💫 Set your intention for the kind of partnership you now know you deserve.
💫 Reclaim your power, one loving thought at a time.