What To Do When a Man Says He’s Not Ready for a Relationship

By Teal Elisabeth

Is he saying he’s not ready for a relationship? Here’s how to respond with grace, confidence, and feminine energy—without losing your power.

If He Says He’s Not Ready... But You Know There’s Something Real

We've all been there: the man you feel a powerful connection with says he's "not ready for a relationship." You’re left in limbo—heart open, soul invested, and unsure what to do next.

Do you walk away? Hold space? Push for clarity?

In a recent episode of the Master Your Magnetism podcast, spiritual love and relationship coach Teal Elisabeth shares the exact steps she took when her now-husband told her he didn’t want to get married—after five years together and a year of traveling the world side-by-side.

Spoiler alert: It wasn’t about forcing or fixing. It was about embodying her feminine power and holding loving boundaries.

Here's what to do when he pulls back—and how to stay in your power without closing your heart.

Step 1: Check in with YOUR Self-Love First

Before you even approach a conversation with him, pause and ask yourself:

• Am I coming from lack and fear?

• Do I feel whole and secure on my own?

• Is this desire for commitment truly about us, or is it about filling a gap in me?

Your self-love sets the tone for everything. When you're deeply rooted in your worth, you stop negotiating your needs or chasing unavailable love.

"This can’t come from your fear of needing this to happen. It has to come from integrity and inner peace." —Teal

Step 2: Get Comfortable with the Idea of Walking Away

Yes, really.

You can’t have a clear conversation if you're terrified of losing him. The fear of walking away must feel smaller than the pain of staying stuck. That’s when you begin to reclaim your power.

Get cozy with the discomfort. Cry. Journal. Let your heart break open. But remind yourself: You will be okay no matter what.

You are the prize.

Step 3: Don’t Force a Breakthrough—Invite One

Now comes the brave part: having the conversation. But it’s not a one-time sit-down.

It’s a series of gentle, intuitive conversations rooted in curiosity, not control.

What to say:

• "What does commitment mean to you?"

• "I’d love to understand what comes up for you when we talk about long-term partnership."

• "Is there any fear underneath that I might not know about?"

Let him speak. Really listen. You're not here to be his therapist, but you can hold space from your grounded, magnetic essence.

"We get to be the muse. The inspiration. The invitation. Not the fixer." —Teal

Step 4: Give Space After He Shares

Once he opens up, don’t pounce.

Say thank you. Acknowledge his vulnerability. And then… give it time. Let the energy settle.

Your calm, non-reactive presence creates emotional safety. That’s when true intimacy begins to unfold.

Step 5: Remind Him of What He Could Lose

Once you’ve created space for him to explore his blocks, you get to remind him—from a place of love, not pressure—what he stands to lose.

Not through threat, but through radiant truth.

"I know I’m a once-in-a-lifetime woman. I love you. And I won't let fear sabotage what we have."

You might walk away. And if he’s the right man, your empowered energy will be the very thing that brings him back—ready.

Teal’s Personal Story: From “I Don’t Want Marriage” to “Will You Marry Me?”

When Teal’s partner said he didn’t believe in marriage, she didn’t collapse or cling. She got curious.

She uncovered his fear of repeating his parents' mistakes.

She held space without making it about her.

And when he realized what he was about to lose, he shifted. Today, they’ve been married for years, have a beautiful family, and teach others how to navigate these exact moments.

Because how you handle this crossroads determines everything.

Final Reminder: You Deserve Certainty and Commitment

If a man is unsure about you, that’s his right. But it’s also your right to choose a love that meets you with clarity, commitment, and full devotion.

There is no "convincing" in healthy love. Only alignment.

So whether it works out with this man or a better one, your inner alignment is what brings him to you.

Ready to Talk Through Your Situation?

If you're navigating hot-and-cold behavior, fear of loss, or want to know if he's "the one," Teal is offering a free 30-minute breakthrough call to women in Teal's community.

You’ll receive:

• Personalized support

• Space to talk about your unique relationship dynamic

• Tools to help you get clarity—and stay in your power

👉 Click here to book your free call now.

Watch the full YouTube video here:

https://www.youtube.com/live/IA6OgBHpkMA?si=aJdW8gJMtya2HEWb